Have you ever had someone yell at you?

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A friend of mine is having issues with someone in his building. As the president of his condo board, he interacts with a wide variety of personalities. One woman, in particular, had been making demands of him, yelling and "berating" him to do something she wanted.

"No, absolutely not. I will not be doing what she wants. Especially in the way she is asking," he tells me.

And how could you blame him? How inclined would you feel to do something where the...

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3 things NOT to do when someone is feeling mad/sad/hurt (and what to do instead)

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I managed to avoid a total disaster yesterday.

I was in the car with my wife, driving back from a long weekend away in nature. 

Since we had left on our trip, we had been avoiding checking our phones. Alas, now that the trip was over it was time to get back into the swing of things.

Once we got reception back, my wife checked her phone and surveyed her emails.

And as she came back to "reality", she became very worried...

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How to let in more love in your life

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In one of my coaching sessions, a client and I were exploring what it would look like to have more acknowledgements in her life.

First off, I love that idea. Is there a thing as too much acknowledgement? If so, I haven’t found that limit yet.

What was so interesting was what my client had discovered for herself several weeks into her acknowledgment experiment.

Naturally, she started to become much more aware of when she gave out acknowledgements and,...

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Your Friends are Lying on Facebook (and I can prove it)

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I gleaned over the Facebook event details, unsure of whether this is something I would be interested in attending or not.

Someone had invited me to their birthday party. My plans were open for the evening, so I didn’t really have an excuse not to go.

I looked at the guest list. Lots of unfamiliar names and faces appeared. My uncertainty and unwillingness to commit to this party remained.

I lingered on the event page for only a few more moments before...

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Do Goal-Setting, Not Resolutions

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New year's resolutions get a bad wrap. That’s probably because the vast majority of people decide to take on something new in their life - a workout regiment, a diet, a new skill or hobby, to get organized,  [ list well-intentioned endeavour here] - and ultimately fall off the bandwagon within months, weeks, or even days.

There are many, many reasons people fail to keep their resolutions. In this article, I’m going to highlight a few that...

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How Unaddressed Feelings Can Dominate Conversations

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He had just finished speaking to his daughter on the phone and, from the sounds of it, the conversation didn't go too well.

The call ended and he immediately made his way toward me.

"Can you believe it? All she did was blame me the entire time."

I didn't hear exactly what was said on the call, but it sounded like he wasn't treated very nicely. And unsurprisingly, he responded in kind, speaking rather aggressively to his daughter.

He spoke to me for some...

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How Meditation Can Improve Your Communication Skills

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Last week I wrapped up a 10-day silent meditation retreat. In fact, it was the 5th 10-day retreat I had sat within the last few years.

I get many questions when I share this, the most common of which is: Why?

There are many, many reasons why I sit retreats and maintain a regular meditation practice. And I'm going to let you in on one major reason. In fact, this reason directly relates to cultivating better communication skills.


I distinctly remember the...

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The Damaging Effects of Being Judgmental

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I was in the car when a friend of mine jumped into the back seat.

Almost immediately after shutting the door, he said, "Okay, can we take a minute and talk about those guys?"

We had just spent a weekend away at a bachelor party for a friend of ours. As with many bachelor parties, there is often an amalgamation of different friend groups coming together to celebrate a common cause.

This bachelor party weekend was no exception.

In fact, I already knew (and was...

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2 Lessons I Learned on How to Handle a Heated Argument

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I'm assuming you've been in a heated exchange before, right? Of course you have. You're a human being! 

And I was in one just the other day with someone who, for the purposes of this post, we'll call Bob.

The conversation started in typical fashion - an exchange of "how are you's" and general life updates. Once we got past the pleasantries, we started on a topic that we had clashed over in the past.

It turns out that Bob actually many unexpressed...

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Have you ever wanted to ask for something... but felt too scared?

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"I want to ask him, but he'll probably say no," she said, discouraged by the thought.

"Why do you think he'll say no?" I inquired.

"Because he has family here, his friends are here, all of his work connections are here and he is barely making ends meet, he just signed a new lease for an apartment... I have also only really known him for 2 months and I don't want to seem like a crazy person!"


I was speaking to a...

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