Do Goal-Setting, Not Resolutions

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New year's resolutions get a bad wrap. That’s probably because the vast majority of people decide to take on something new in their life - a workout regiment, a diet, a new skill or hobby, to get organized,  [ list well-intentioned endeavour here] - and ultimately fall off the bandwagon within months, weeks, or even days.

There are many, many reasons people fail to keep their resolutions. In this article, I’m going to highlight a few that...

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How Unaddressed Feelings Can Dominate Conversations

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He had just finished speaking to his daughter on the phone and, from the sounds of it, the conversation didn't go too well.

The call ended and he immediately made his way toward me.

"Can you believe it? All she did was blame me the entire time."

I didn't hear exactly what was said on the call, but it sounded like he wasn't treated very nicely. And unsurprisingly, he responded in kind, speaking rather aggressively to his daughter.

He spoke to me for some...

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How Meditation Can Improve Your Communication Skills

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Last week I wrapped up a 10-day silent meditation retreat. In fact, it was the 5th 10-day retreat I had sat within the last few years.

I get many questions when I share this, the most common of which is: Why?

There are many, many reasons why I sit retreats and maintain a regular meditation practice. And I'm going to let you in on one major reason. In fact, this reason directly relates to cultivating better communication skills.

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I distinctly remember the...

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The Damaging Effects of Being Judgmental

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I was in the car when a friend of mine jumped into the back seat.

Almost immediately after shutting the door, he said, "Okay, can we take a minute and talk about those guys?"

We had just spent a weekend away at a bachelor party for a friend of ours. As with many bachelor parties, there is often an amalgamation of different friend groups coming together to celebrate a common cause.

This bachelor party weekend was no exception.

In fact, I already knew (and was...

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Have you ever wanted to ask for something... but felt too scared?

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"I want to ask him, but he'll probably say no," she said, discouraged by the thought.

"Why do you think he'll say no?" I inquired.

"Because he has family here, his friends are here, all of his work connections are here and he is barely making ends meet, he just signed a new lease for an apartment... I have also only really known him for 2 months and I don't want to seem like a crazy person!"

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I was speaking to a...

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I Managed to Avoid a Potential Disaster With my Sister (and how you can do the same)

 

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One thing that has been shaking up my world lately is that my sister, who lives in New Zealand, is visiting Toronto for the next 6 weeks. And here is the kicker: she is living with me for that time.

Wait, what?

That's right - I have a new roommate for 6 weeks that, in all honesty, I probably wouldn't have chosen as my top pick for a roommate.

And the transition with her here hasn't been the easiest for me. In...

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